It seems to be that honesty is a common minimum requirement in the consideration of morals and value systems. Most of us are honest most of the time, some more than others. When we do tell a white lie we generally have a justification for it, we are protecting someone or something. There are countless reasons.
I’d like to focus on a different person that we are both honest and dishonest with, our self. Dishonesty with ourselves leads us to make bad decisions, it’s that simple. We base our decision making on information that we have. Some of that information comes from outward sources, some comes from within. When we are dishonest with ourselves and then use that dishonesty as a basis for decision making, we have knowingly lead ourselves into trouble.
As a disclaimer, if I sound preachy, know that I am only preaching to myself.
I am learning to be more honest with myself and it is allowing me new perspective on things that I have done wrong in the past. I am learning to look inward for the root of the troubles in my life and I am seeing personal progress as a result. If anyone can benefit or contribute to personal growth, I welcome them.
Thanks for listening,
JM
Friday, November 24, 2006
Wednesday, November 22, 2006
The Spiral Theory
Hi all,
Thought I'd write about something that I have thought quite a bit about lately. I've been studying how certain elements in life seem to work and have noticed what I am calling the "Spiral effect". It could very well be that Someone out there has figured this out long ago. It just happens to be something I've been thinking about lately.
Have you ever noticed that when you are having a bad day, it usually gets worse before it gets better? How about when you are having a string of luck? Things seem to just keep getting better. To me this represents how things can spiral upwards or downwards. When things are going badly they don't get a little bit worse, they seem to get exponentially worse. For whatever reason, I think we allow things to be connected due to our own inability to "put a fence around them" and see them for the isolated incidents that they are. For this reason, when something goes wrong, we allow it to set a tone for something else to go wrong. When something else goes wrong, it compounds how you were already feeling about something else having not worked out. Really what we are doing is allowing a situation to spin out of control. As a string of incidents moves along it builds momentum and becomes more difficult to stop. This is when we need to jump back into the drivers seat and turn the bus around. Take control again. The difficulty is that not only do you need to stop the spiral downward, then you have to overcome inertia and start the spiral upwards.
Getting the Spiral working for you again.
After a strange string of events that have seemingly gone wrong, you need to find away to get back on the positive train. My suggestions is to get very granular. By that I mean take small controllable scenarios and find the success in them. I woke up and didn't have a headache. That's a good thing. My coffee was hot and satisfying. That's a good thing. These are obviously small and seemingly insignificant but isn't it the same as getting toothpaste on your shirt or stubbing your toe, seemingly insignificant things, and then allowing them to set a negative tone for your day?
Think about it and where I am going and we'll talk more about it again later.
Thought I'd write about something that I have thought quite a bit about lately. I've been studying how certain elements in life seem to work and have noticed what I am calling the "Spiral effect". It could very well be that Someone out there has figured this out long ago. It just happens to be something I've been thinking about lately.
Have you ever noticed that when you are having a bad day, it usually gets worse before it gets better? How about when you are having a string of luck? Things seem to just keep getting better. To me this represents how things can spiral upwards or downwards. When things are going badly they don't get a little bit worse, they seem to get exponentially worse. For whatever reason, I think we allow things to be connected due to our own inability to "put a fence around them" and see them for the isolated incidents that they are. For this reason, when something goes wrong, we allow it to set a tone for something else to go wrong. When something else goes wrong, it compounds how you were already feeling about something else having not worked out. Really what we are doing is allowing a situation to spin out of control. As a string of incidents moves along it builds momentum and becomes more difficult to stop. This is when we need to jump back into the drivers seat and turn the bus around. Take control again. The difficulty is that not only do you need to stop the spiral downward, then you have to overcome inertia and start the spiral upwards.
Getting the Spiral working for you again.
After a strange string of events that have seemingly gone wrong, you need to find away to get back on the positive train. My suggestions is to get very granular. By that I mean take small controllable scenarios and find the success in them. I woke up and didn't have a headache. That's a good thing. My coffee was hot and satisfying. That's a good thing. These are obviously small and seemingly insignificant but isn't it the same as getting toothpaste on your shirt or stubbing your toe, seemingly insignificant things, and then allowing them to set a negative tone for your day?
Think about it and where I am going and we'll talk more about it again later.
Tuesday, November 21, 2006
I think my concussions caused me to foget about this thing!
Hi out there to anyone that might be reading. I just found a link to this and must be honest, I pretty much forgot about it all together. Thats a little scary. My wife would say its about normal!
I'm going to give it another crack. Last season was a right off, two torn hamstrings and then a concussion that cost me 4 games. Sj Stealth stunk out the league and don't look any better going into this season. Should be interesting.
As for Team Canada, what an experience! Gold medal, who would of thought. I must saying winning a World Championship was everything that it was cracked up to be.
I'll spend a little time thinking up some new and deep thoughts and see what I can come up with. Please feel free to link up if you like, and I'll look forward to searching through some other blogs and reading what others have to say about the world.
Chat soon,
JM
I'm going to give it another crack. Last season was a right off, two torn hamstrings and then a concussion that cost me 4 games. Sj Stealth stunk out the league and don't look any better going into this season. Should be interesting.
As for Team Canada, what an experience! Gold medal, who would of thought. I must saying winning a World Championship was everything that it was cracked up to be.
I'll spend a little time thinking up some new and deep thoughts and see what I can come up with. Please feel free to link up if you like, and I'll look forward to searching through some other blogs and reading what others have to say about the world.
Chat soon,
JM
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