The power of being honest with yourself.

It seems to be that honesty is a common minimum requirement in the consideration of morals and value systems. Most of us are honest most of the time, some more than others. When we do tell a white lie we generally have a justification for it, we are protecting someone or something. There are countless reasons.

I’d like to focus on a different person that we are both honest and dishonest with, our self. Dishonesty with ourselves leads us to make bad decisions, it’s that simple. We base our decision making on information that we have. Some of that information comes from outward sources, some comes from within. When we are dishonest with ourselves and then use that dishonesty as a basis for decision making, we have knowingly lead ourselves into trouble.

As a disclaimer, if I sound preachy, know that I am only preaching to myself.

I am learning to be more honest with myself and it is allowing me new perspective on things that I have done wrong in the past. I am learning to look inward for the root of the troubles in my life and I am seeing personal progress as a result. If anyone can benefit or contribute to personal growth, I welcome them.

Thanks for listening,
JM

The Spiral Theory

Hi all,

Thought I'd write about something that I have thought quite a bit about lately. I've been studying how certain elements in life seem to work and have noticed what I am calling the "Spiral effect". It could very well be that Someone out there has figured this out long ago. It just happens to be something I've been thinking about lately.

Have you ever noticed that when you are having a bad day, it usually gets worse before it gets better? How about when you are having a string of luck? Things seem to just keep getting better. To me this represents how things can spiral upwards or downwards. When things are going badly they don't get a little bit worse, they seem to get exponentially worse. For whatever reason, I think we allow things to be connected due to our own inability to "put a fence around them" and see them for the isolated incidents that they are. For this reason, when something goes wrong, we allow it to set a tone for something else to go wrong. When something else goes wrong, it compounds how you were already feeling about something else having not worked out. Really what we are doing is allowing a situation to spin out of control. As a string of incidents moves along it builds momentum and becomes more difficult to stop. This is when we need to jump back into the drivers seat and turn the bus around. Take control again. The difficulty is that not only do you need to stop the spiral downward, then you have to overcome inertia and start the spiral upwards.

Getting the Spiral working for you again.
After a strange string of events that have seemingly gone wrong, you need to find away to get back on the positive train. My suggestions is to get very granular. By that I mean take small controllable scenarios and find the success in them. I woke up and didn't have a headache. That's a good thing. My coffee was hot and satisfying. That's a good thing. These are obviously small and seemingly insignificant but isn't it the same as getting toothpaste on your shirt or stubbing your toe, seemingly insignificant things, and then allowing them to set a negative tone for your day?

Think about it and where I am going and we'll talk more about it again later.

I think my concussions caused me to foget about this thing!

Hi out there to anyone that might be reading. I just found a link to this and must be honest, I pretty much forgot about it all together. Thats a little scary. My wife would say its about normal!

I'm going to give it another crack. Last season was a right off, two torn hamstrings and then a concussion that cost me 4 games. Sj Stealth stunk out the league and don't look any better going into this season. Should be interesting.

As for Team Canada, what an experience! Gold medal, who would of thought. I must saying winning a World Championship was everything that it was cracked up to be.

I'll spend a little time thinking up some new and deep thoughts and see what I can come up with. Please feel free to link up if you like, and I'll look forward to searching through some other blogs and reading what others have to say about the world.

Chat soon,
JM

My definition of growing up!?

Growing up, interesting. Now that I am 28 years old and almost half way to growing up, I am starting to get a better understanding of what it entails. For any of you kids that are reading take note, for all you adults out there, let me know if I'm getting close or not.

So here it is, Growing up is when you get to the point that you can differentiate between the times when it is okay to be immature and when it is required to be mature.

Personally, I am starting to see the difference, but I still really enjoy those times when I am allowed to be immature and simply play.

Let's hear what you think.

A championship year on the horizon?

Hi world,

Today I thought I would briefly try to explain how excited I am for the upcoming year of lacrosse. The upcoming year, will see me work full time for STX for the first time, play my fifth professional lacrosse season, and compete for the World Championships as a representative of team Canada, in my home country and college town of London Ontario.
A single year in sports rarely holds such exciting events.

As a result I am working out and training harder than ever. I have always been a diligent worker, but I have yet to win a NLL championship or a world Championship. Silver in both. Silver will not be good enough going forward. I am so driven to put myself on the map and into the history books as a part of a championship program. Nothing is going to get in my way of being the best that I can.

PS Congratulations to all of the palyers and fans of the Victoria Shamrocks! Glad to know that the leaders of the Rocks will be playing a huge role with the SJ Stealth as well.

Thought I'd try a joke today

I thought it might be fun to throw a joke up every now and then. If you’ve got any good ones, pass them along.

I have to admit I am a bit of a gambler. I enjoy craps, poker and roulette. Thats why I thought this one might be applicable.

Rotten luck...
A lady is having a bad day at the roulette tables in 'Vegas. She's down to her last $50. Exasperated, she exclaims, "What rotten luck! What in the world should I do now?"
A man standing next to her, trying to calm her down, suggests, "I don't know... why don't you play your age?"
He walks away. Moments later, his attention is grabbed by a great commotion at the roulette table. Maybe she won! He rushes back to the table and pushes his way through the crowd. The lady is lying limp on the floor, with the table operator kneeling over her.
The man is stunned. He asks, "What happened? Is she all right?"
The operator replies, "I don't know. She put all her money on 29, and 36 came up. Then she just fainted!"

SMILE!!!

You know what, Smile. It won’t hurt and it will likely help those around you. It might even get to be contagious. What has happened to us that we don’t smile more often, and more naturally? I am sitting at an airport and looking around. It cannot be possible that all of these people are in that poor of a mood that I shouldn’t at least see a couple of people smiling.

I am doing a little experiment, give me a second…

Okay, I just smiled at three people. They all smiled back. In fact they almost looked a little embarrassed that they got caught totally not smiling.

Hopefully one day, I’ll have a couple of people that read all of this trash that I write on this Blog. I will look forward to hearing some people’s opinions on this.

God, wouldn’t it be great if more people looked happy? Man, all of these people are getting on a plane to California, whats not to be happy about? Have I missed some breaking news that California just slid into the ocean, and that is why no one is smiling? Or are they all horrified thinking about eating the airplane food?

I don't mean to sound preachy, but hey, this one is a no brainer.